IAMGO Relationship Therapy and A Conscious Marriage

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Individuals in intimate relationships, despite deliberate effort to seek a partner who is nothing like the individuals' smothering, overbearing or unpredictable and emotionally unavailable parent, none the less partner-up (unconsciously) with a mate with the qualities intended to be avoided! "But, no matter what their conscious intentions, most people are attracted to mates who have their caretaker's positive and negative traits, and, typically, the negative traits are more influential." (Harville Hendrix, 1988)

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As the awareness of once unconscious drives become understood and conscious a couple is empowered with the knowledge that deep within them is force to heal childhood wounds and unmet or frustrated needs. "The part of your brain that directed your search for a mate, however, was not your logical, orderly new brain; it was our time-locked, myopic old brain. And what your old brain was trying to do was re-create the conditions of your upbringing, in order to correct them." (Harville Hendrix, 1988)

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We choose partners that often compensate for positive parts of ourselveds that were disowned and cut off in childhood.

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Viewing marriage and intimate unions through a new lense, partners can expand their appreciation of romantic relationships as a space of individual healing, vitality, mature intimacy and deeply rewarding.

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Imagine finally understanding why you find your partner deliberately hurting you...

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Imagine understanding why you yourself were unpleasant, irritable, coercive or withholding with the hope of getting your partner to satisfy your unmet needs...

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Term: Imago is essentially a mental-image comprised of merged dominant positive and negative qualities of people who most influenced you in your formative years of development.

 

Treatment Explores:

The Imago

Old Brain Logic

Romantic Love and Attraction

Need Fulfillment

The Lost Self and Disowned Self

Childhood Wounds

Power Struggle

Weapons of Love

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Communication Challenges

Infidelity

Avoid the pitfalls of painful misunderstandings:   defensiveness, blaming, power struggles, abuse/ violence, mind reading, kitchen sinking, blaming and

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Three Brain Systems of Love: Lust, Romantic Love and Attachment.

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How might your experience of love match your partners?  The verb for love "to have" the verb for desire is "to want." 

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